15 years of motherhood

One of the best thing that has happened to me has been motherhood. I so vividly remember the day Aasim was born, it seems it all happend just yesterday. As a child came to us with clever one liners and sometimes very weird questions  (he still does sometimes) and some of the things that he said and did I have documented in my journal. It has been 15 years and our son has been the best any parent could hope for. May you get happiness

As he turns 46 this day

In 2002, when Tarique turned 36, he wrote about counting milestones of age in decades at 6, 16, 26 and 36. So I thought on his 46th birthday  I should document the last four decades, his 6th, 16th, 26th and 36th year in pictures. The photos are not of great quality, but then this post is not about quality of photographs -it is about quality of life 🙂

Tarique Sani
Tarique Sani, 6 yrs. 1972.

At 6, his naughtiest best.

Tarique Sani
Tarique Sani, 16 yrs. 1982.

At 16. After he lost his mother, he decided to study medicine.

Tarique Sani, 26 yrs. 1992.

At 26. Photo taken at Alibag beach.

On his 26th birthday I was with him, we had finalized the plans of our marriage that day. I wish I had taken his picture that day, I did not -but he did take several of mine.

Tarique Sani, 36 yrs. 2002.

At 36. The three of us.

Tarique Sani, 46 yrs. 2012.

And today, at 46, he still is that 6 year old at heart. Happy Birthday, Love.

One.

The year was 1991, early June. We wanted to feel alive, what better way than go hang-gliding? He would pick me up at 4.30 AM and we would ride on his bike to the outskirts of the city to this adventure camp where we learnt hang-gliding. Years have passed us by but every time I think of those days, I still get goose pimples – and hang gliding was just one of the things we did.

Fly
Fly

 

Fly
to touch the clouds
feel the deep blue sky.
Fly
and find the world beneath
conquered.
Fly
and discover
the power of wings:
Your Wings!!
Fly
to tame the wild wind
feel the power
and be one!!

Traditional Mutton Dum Biryani

I inherited this recipe from my Mother-In-Law who had fine tuned the art of making Biryani in a pressure cooker. It took me some time but now I am getting good at making this traditional mutton dum biryani.

A perfect biryani would have the right amount of moisture and yet the rice grains are separate.  There are spices, a whole variety of them, used in moderation. Fresh green chillies should be just enough to make you salivate a bit, bringing out all the flavours, textures and fragrances.

 

Ingredients required:

Ingradients
Marinade ingradients
Marinade

1.25 Kg Mutton
1 Kg Basmati Rice
1/4 kg very sour (khatta) curd
Onion 2 large
Ginger 1.5″
Garlic cloves 10-12
(make a paste of onion, ginger and garlic)
Mint leaves -1/2 bunch
Coriander leaves – 1 bunch
Green chillies – this is the only thing that will make the biryani hot – but it use in moderation. Just enough to enhance flavours.
(make a paste of mint leaves, coriander and green chillies)
Khada masala (whole spices):
Cumin 2 tsp
Green cardamom 5-7
Cloves -10-12
Black Pepper 20-22
Cinnamon stick – 2 1 inch sticks
Caraway seeds (Shah zeera) 1 tsp
Mace 1 tsp
Milk +salt+water
Ghee 250 gms (vansapati)
Nutmeg 1/2 nutmeg cut into two pieces
Saffron – a few strands

Garnish:

Fried onion rings
Kewra essence (extract of Pandanus flowers) – 3-4 drops

  1. Mix curd, onion, garlic, ginger paste, half of whole spices, salt, some slit green chillies, 2 tsp paste of coriander, mint and green chillies. Marinate the mutton in this mix overnight in the refrigerator.
  2. Remover the marinade from the fridge 4 hours before cooking so that it comes to room temperature.
  3. Cut one onion in rings and deep fry the onion rings in ghee- keep aside. This melted ghee would be used for cooking biryani. Keep the fried onions separately -they will be used as garnish.
  4. Boil 3-4 liters of water, add salt, remaining whole spices and washed rice to the water. Let it boil for a minute or so. Discard water, Keep the mixture of rice and whole spices
  5. In a pressure cooker put some ghee (about 2 tbsp) and layer the mutton marinade and insert 3-4 slit green chillies
  6. Add more ghee and layer the semi cooked rice over it and insert 3-4 fresh (slit) green chillies
  7. Take 1/2 cup milk, add 1/2 cup water, and add salt (this mixture should be fairly salty). This water-Milk mixture should be at room temperature.
  8. After layering the rice, pour the water+milk mixture. Just enough – the water mixture should not come above rice level -infact it should be 1/2 finger below rice level -part the rice with finger and if you feel the moisture, it’s enough -remember the marinade has water and rice is half-cooked.
  9. Insert 2 pieces of nutmeg in the middle, add saffron strands (soaked in 2 tsp of warm milk)
  10. Pressure cook the biryani till the cooker blows 1 whistle on high, then put the heat on simmer and keep the cooker on for 15 more minutes,
  11. Remove the cooker from gas, and let it cool.
  12. Open the cooker lid, add fried onions and sprinkle the kewra essence (3 drops) -close the lid again for 5-7 mins
  13. Serve this mouth-watering, melt in mouth biryani with Curd+mint+coriander raita (the mint+coriander paste you had made earlier can be put into curd to make thin raita) and Khatti Dal
Mutton Biryani
(Click for larger image)

Khatti Dal

100 gms chana dal

250 gms Khatte chugge ki bhaji** (also called as Ambat chuka or  ) 2 raw tomatoes (should be sour)

2-3 Green chillies

1/4 tsp ground Ginger and Garlic paste

Salt

Little oil

Dried red Chillies

Cumin seeds

Boil chana dal with Khatti bhaji,  raw tomatoes green chillies, ginger garlic paste. Mash Dal after it is cooked and add water (the consistency should be thin). Give a boil to the dal with salt added to it.

Heat oil, put cumin seeds and dried red chillies and temper the dal with it

Serve with steaming dum biryani

** Substitute  raw mango powder and a lot of sour tomatoes if you can not find this vegetable

नील कमल

नील कमल

वो बूंद जो
बादलों में खेलती थी
आज तपती धरा की आग़ोश में
समाने को बेचैन हो उठी
पर फिर जब नील कमल
को इठलाते देखा
तो उसी की हो चली
डूब गयी
खो गयी
सो गयी

— स्वाति

एक ग़ज़ल

छोटी सी इक रात की ये मुख्तसर मुलाक़ात
सितारे बिखरें हैं ज़मीं पे, मेरे घर में है काइनात

रेशम के दुपट्टे से उसने यूँ लपेटे उँगलियों के तार
किसी पुराने आशिक से मानों आज है मुलाक़ात

रोज़ ही मिला करते थे जब मुफलिसी के दिन थे
अब अच्छा वक्त है दोस्तों मग़र मस्रूफ दिन-रात

बड़ी बेतकल्लुफी से रहते थे कभी वो दिल में मेरे
हाल-ए-दिल पूछते हैं अब ये कैसे हो गये हालात

अपने दामन को समेटे रखने की आदत थी जिन्हें
सारे मोहल्ले में बाँटते फिरते है आज वो ख़ैरात

— स्वाति

Traveling back in time

Tarique Sani, Born 19th Sept 1966. Age a little less than 1 year
Swati Sani (nee Shrivastava), Born 2nd March 1968. Age a little less than 1 year.

 

 

And no, they were not engaged to be married in childhood 🙂 कुर्सी ग़वाह है!

Both photos taken by my dad, Girish Shrivastava at Retina Studio.

Running a business – lessons learnt from the movie Sholay.

The title of this post is not merely to entice readers into reading this post – this post is exactly about how running a business is akin to a movie full of action, drama, comedy and suspense; Sholay

Lean and Mean

Remember how to thugs got into the business of saving lives of hundreds of villagers of Rampur? A lean and mean team goes a long way. Theirs was a lean and mean startup (as opposed to the police force) that broke into an established business domain because there was a need (to protect the villagers from dacoits).

Bol diya hai to kar denge

The two small time thugs are true to their word, whatever the risks they take them head on and that’s an important factor contributing to their success. Like Jay tells Veeru “Partner, ab bol hee diya hai to dekh lenge” So, as an entrepreneur, never back out of your commitments.

Veeru se takkar?

Nothing speaks louder than confidence in your abilities. Know your strengths well and use them all the time.

Ye dosti hum nahi todenge

Founders of a business go way beyond being business partners – they become inseparable. They value their relationship and trust each other completely.

Jo dar gaya samjho mar gaya!

Fear is the worst enemy of a business enterprise. Dare, and you will win.

Loha garam hai, maar do hatoda

Know your strengths and capitalize on opportunities. Letting go of opportunities that come your way is not an optimal way of running a business.

Mujhe Gabbar chahiye. Zinda

While your investor (Thakur) trusts your abilities, he has an ulterior motive. VC’s always have ulterior motives.

The above is not an exhaustive list of sholayisms and I intend to keep adding to it as I discover them. Hope my readers enjoy reading it as much as they enjoyed watching the movie.

Ammi’s 76th Birth Anniversary.

ZarinaSani.org

When I started on this journey little did I know as to how I would accomplish such a huge task of getting Ammi’s work transcribed and published to bringing her back in the world of Urdu Adab.

But as I took first steps, help came from most unexpected quarters and tasks that looked insurmountable became easy. My heartfelt thanks to all those who helped.

I hope to continue my very fulfilling journey of discovering Dr. Zarina Sani, as an adeeba and a woman.

मैं अकेला ही चला था जानिबे मंज़िल मगर
लोग साथ आते गये और कारवँा बनता गया

 

अकेली पंक्तियाँ

एक अकेला कोना
भी नहीं मिलता
इस बड़े से घर में
जहाँ जा कर मैं
कुछ मन हलका करूँ
नमकीन आसुँओ से
अपनी बात कहूँ
और खुद से ही
शिकायत कर पाऊँ…

ये घर
मेरा ही तो है
जो खुशियों से
इतना भरा है
कि दुख अपने आप को
अक्सर अकेला पाता है
गले तक आ कर
फिर निग़ल लिया
जाता है।